Five Regrets of the Dying - By Bronnie Ware
For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives.People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality. I learned never to underestimate someone�s capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, such as denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance.
Every single patient found their peace before they departed though... every one of them.
When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five:
1) I wish I did had the courage to live a life true to myself, not
the life other expected of me.
This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people have had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.
It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.
2) I wish I didn't work so hard.
This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children�s youth and their partner's companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.
By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle.
3) I wish I did had the courage to express my feelings.
Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.
We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win.
4) I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved.
Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.
It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip. But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It is all comes down to love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks, love and relationships.
5) I wish that I had let myself be happier.
This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called �comfort� of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.
When you are on your death-bed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying. Life is a choice.
It is YOUR life.
Choose consciously, choose wisely, choose honestly.
Choose happiness.
Wednesday, June 29, 2011
Thursday, April 7, 2011
After a long time I strongly feel about something and I can’t stop myself to write about it. As an Indian most of the time we all discuss in public and debate with our family and friends but when it comes to take any action we will simply say “Yaar chalta hai”, it’s not just you, I am also a part of this corrupt system, in past so many times it’s happened that I had two choices either I should pay bribe or ready to accept the delays in my work but as a common man I preferred the first one and paid the bribe like others.
I still remember say around 25 year back, the corruption was there but still if people talk about those corrupt people they refer the person with hate and disrespect. But after 25 years things are changed so many times when I visited India in last few years, I had found that people say with a different kind of feeling if you are doing your job with honesty people treat you like a fool, and the other person like a smart boy….”he knows how to earn money”, it means the problem is not started just know it’s having a deep roots back to our independence. The only thing which was changed is that before people were having worry if people will come to know than what they feel but now it is open game no one cares about these things for them it is all about money...total materialism. It Mean our Old generations did not give the right SANSKARS (teachings) to their children they were also interested in all those things but they forget one thing It will bite back, therefore you will find now a days, corruptions at all level not just limited to Money but in our homes also parents are crying that their children are not ready to take care of them, they just interested in their own life, self centered, etc. but did anyone think over it ,that why it happened.
Now come to the burning Topic a guy from a small village from Maharashtra, who was a truck driver in Indian army, a follower of Mahatma Gandhi who in past successfully did movements for so many social causes finally decide to take a final war against corruption who is 73 year old diabetic patient why he is so much interested for that, he is a bachelor living in a Temple using his pension for charitable causes no hidden agenda, this is all for the future of this nation, for the younger generation.
Few days back we all Indian were united talking about World cup, if I am not mistaken all over India irrespective of religion and caste everyone prayed for the Indian team, and after the win we all celebrated that with full hear ( I was one of them), even state governments showered crores of rupees on them, but did anybody thought does this money belongs to these politicians, it is a hard earned money of common people paid as a tax to the government and how these politician can shower these money on these players, if they played for national pride than they should not accept that or if they played for just money that no problem they have a right. But if they really believe in Nationalism or nation pride than don’t you think anyone of them at least come out in open and say against the corruption as they all are worried if they utter any word than ICCI and BCCI kick them out, their career will finish, I have seen a person on TV MBA and was working for an MNC but have a courage to resign and join the movement, and what these celebrities are doing nothing in that case our young actors are better at least they shows their supports, even one of the industrialist told that we all business people should support the movement. This is the high time we Indian should do something for the corruption, it is like a DEMAK (white ants) to our system, this is a war of do or die, now or never, I strongly feel that we all should at least support this movement, We don’t need IPL, we need these kind of movement to safeguard our future generation and India.
We should think over it if we can unite for a cricket match don’t you think this is the time we should unite for Indian and our younger generation future……………….THINK AGAIN
****************MERA BHARAT MAHAN*****************************
Saturday, June 26, 2010
ARE YOU A EGG, CARROT OR A CUP OF COFFEE
A carrot, an egg, and a cup of coffee...
You will never look at a cup of coffee the same way again.
A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose.
Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil. In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil; without saying a word.
In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her daughter, she asked, ' Tell me what you see.'
'Carrots, Eggs, and Coffee,' she replied.
Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard boiled egg
Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. The daughter then asked, 'What does it mean, mother?'
Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity: boiling water. Each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting.. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.
'Which are you?' she asked her daughter. 'When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?
Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?
Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?
Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest do you elevate yourself to another level? How do you handle adversity? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?
May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human and enough hope to make you happy.
The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way. The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past; you can't go forward in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.
When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling.
Live your life so at the end, you're the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying.
May we all be COFFEE!!!!!!!
You will never look at a cup of coffee the same way again.
A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose.
Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil. In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil; without saying a word.
In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her daughter, she asked, ' Tell me what you see.'
'Carrots, Eggs, and Coffee,' she replied.
Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard boiled egg
Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. The daughter then asked, 'What does it mean, mother?'
Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity: boiling water. Each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting.. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.
'Which are you?' she asked her daughter. 'When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?
Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?
Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?
Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest do you elevate yourself to another level? How do you handle adversity? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?
May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human and enough hope to make you happy.
The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way. The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past; you can't go forward in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.
When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling.
Live your life so at the end, you're the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying.
May we all be COFFEE!!!!!!!
Health Care Is Self Care
I believe that “Health Care Is Self Care”. When you become too much dependant on habit-forming medicines & 'one-disease, one-organ' experts, then passing diseases become permanent and not only you mess up your life but that of your family too. All your savings get over in the long drawn out treatment. Health remains elusive, peace of mind too disappears and penury becomes your companion, unless you are a very rich person with medical insurance.
Before coming here I had a dilemma before me as to what to say on this Schizophrenia day. Because, when you celebrate a disease, you start a live-in relationship with that disease. This is disease-centred approach and is not conducive to health. Today, let us concentrate briefly on: “FROM ILLNESS TO WELLNESS”.
We, in Natural Medicine, work on three cardinal principles:-
(a) Healing is within.
(b) There is an inner environment.
(c) Treatment should not be worse than the disease.
The Body has a vital force and an inbuilt healing mechanism. I will give you an example of this. When you fly non-stop from here to New York or Washington 16 to 18 hours, there is a jet lag. The circadian clock will, however, adjust itself, if you have abstained from taking alcohol, or overeating at odd hours during flight, or have taken enough fruit juices and water and periodic stretch and enough sleep.
We all are becoming more and more aware of the external environment like the oppressive heat -- global warming, depletion of oxygen, polluted water, stench etc. You should also realise that there is an inner environment. 90% diseases are abdomen related. Keep the innards clean and you will be fine.
Treatment should not be worse than the disease. For example in schizophrenia all that you hear is anti psychotics, anti depressants, ECT, seclusion, straitjacket - all part of inhuman treatment.
NAMI website puts Autism as one of the psychological illnesses. According to me it is not. It is due to mercury in vaccines and too many fertilisers entering your system through your food chain which makes the brain go haywire. The black effect of the so-called green revolution.
In psychology / psychiatry there is no solution. In traditional and natural medicine there is no problem that cannot be solved. Psychiatry was started in the KGB andCIA labs as experiments to control people – and there may be good psychiatrist like YA Matcheswalla who receives an Award today, but I stand by my comment based on my 32 years of experience as Natural healer, that psychiatry is worse than witchcraft.
If you wish to enjoy 100 years of disease-free life then follow my Ten Health Commandments :-
1.. Eat twice a day only, preferably vegetarian.
2.. Drink 8 glasses of water to wash out toxins from your bodies.
3.. Exercise for minimum 15 minutes daily.
4.. Meditate twice daily, for good mental health and stress-free life.
5.. Fast once a week to give rest to your vital organs.
6.. Do not smoke, or take drugs, or drink alcohol.
7.. Do not gamble with your life or cheat anyone.
8.. Sleep well for 6 to 8 hours. The best time is 10 pm to 6 am.
9. Go on smiling come what may.
LIFE IS A DANCE FLOOR, GOD IS A DJ. GO ON DANCING.
Before coming here I had a dilemma before me as to what to say on this Schizophrenia day. Because, when you celebrate a disease, you start a live-in relationship with that disease. This is disease-centred approach and is not conducive to health. Today, let us concentrate briefly on: “FROM ILLNESS TO WELLNESS”.
We, in Natural Medicine, work on three cardinal principles:-
(a) Healing is within.
(b) There is an inner environment.
(c) Treatment should not be worse than the disease.
The Body has a vital force and an inbuilt healing mechanism. I will give you an example of this. When you fly non-stop from here to New York or Washington 16 to 18 hours, there is a jet lag. The circadian clock will, however, adjust itself, if you have abstained from taking alcohol, or overeating at odd hours during flight, or have taken enough fruit juices and water and periodic stretch and enough sleep.
We all are becoming more and more aware of the external environment like the oppressive heat -- global warming, depletion of oxygen, polluted water, stench etc. You should also realise that there is an inner environment. 90% diseases are abdomen related. Keep the innards clean and you will be fine.
Treatment should not be worse than the disease. For example in schizophrenia all that you hear is anti psychotics, anti depressants, ECT, seclusion, straitjacket - all part of inhuman treatment.
NAMI website puts Autism as one of the psychological illnesses. According to me it is not. It is due to mercury in vaccines and too many fertilisers entering your system through your food chain which makes the brain go haywire. The black effect of the so-called green revolution.
In psychology / psychiatry there is no solution. In traditional and natural medicine there is no problem that cannot be solved. Psychiatry was started in the KGB andCIA labs as experiments to control people – and there may be good psychiatrist like YA Matcheswalla who receives an Award today, but I stand by my comment based on my 32 years of experience as Natural healer, that psychiatry is worse than witchcraft.
If you wish to enjoy 100 years of disease-free life then follow my Ten Health Commandments :-
1.. Eat twice a day only, preferably vegetarian.
2.. Drink 8 glasses of water to wash out toxins from your bodies.
3.. Exercise for minimum 15 minutes daily.
4.. Meditate twice daily, for good mental health and stress-free life.
5.. Fast once a week to give rest to your vital organs.
6.. Do not smoke, or take drugs, or drink alcohol.
7.. Do not gamble with your life or cheat anyone.
8.. Sleep well for 6 to 8 hours. The best time is 10 pm to 6 am.
9. Go on smiling come what may.
LIFE IS A DANCE FLOOR, GOD IS A DJ. GO ON DANCING.
Sunday, June 20, 2010
Dr. Abdul Kalam's Letter to Every Indian
Why is the media here so negative?
Why are we in India so embarrassed to recognize our own strengths, our achievements? We are such a great nation. We have so many amazing success stories but we refuse to acknowledge them. Why?
We are the first in milk production.
We are number one in Remote sensing satellites.
We are the second largest producer of wheat.
We are the second largest producer of rice.
Look at Dr. Sudarshan , he has transferred the tribal village into a self-sustaining, self-driving unit. There are millions of such achievements but our media is only obsessed in the bad news and failures and disasters.
I was in Tel Aviv once and I was reading the Israeli newspaper. It was the day after a lot of attacks and bombardments and deaths had taken place. The Hamas had struck. But the front page of the newspaper had the picture of a Jewish gentleman who in five years had transformed his desert into an orchid and a granary. It was this inspiring picture that everyone woke up to. The gory details of killings, bombardments, deaths, were inside in the newspaper, buried among other news.
In India we only read about death, sickness, terrorism, crime.. Why are we so NEGATIVE? Another question: Why are we, as a nation so obsessed with foreign things? We want foreign T.Vs, we want foreign shirts. We want foreign technology.
Why this obsession with everything imported. Do we not realize that self-respect comes with self-reliance? I was in Hyderabad giving this lecture, when a 14 year old girl asked me for my autograph. I asked her what her goal in life is. She replied: I want to live in a developed India . For her, you and I will have to build this developed India . You must proclaim. India is not an under-developed nation; it is a highly developed nation.
..
YOU say that our government is inefficient.
YOU say that our laws are too old.
YOU say that the municipality does not pick up the garbage.
YOU say that the phones don't work, the railways are a joke. The airline is the worst in the world, mails never reach their destination.
YOU say that our country has been fed to the dogs and is the absolute pits.
YOU say, say and say. What do YOU do about it?
Take a person on his way to Singapore . Give him a name - 'YOURS'. Give him a face - 'YOURS'. YOU walk out of the airport and you are at your International best. In Singapore you don't throw cigarette butts on the roads or eat in the stores. YOU are as proud of their Underground links as they are.. You pay $5 (approx. Rs. 60) to drive through Orchard Road (equivalent of Mahim Causeway or Pedder Road) between 5 PM and 8 PM. YOU come back to the parking lot to punch your parking ticket if you have over stayed in a restaurant or a shopping mall irrespective of your status identity… In Singapore you don't say anything, DO YOU? YOU wouldn't dare to eat in public during Ramadan, in Dubai .. YOU would not dare to go out without your head covered in Jeddah.
YOU would not dare to buy an employee of the telephone exchange in London at 10 pounds (Rs.650) a month to, 'see to it that my STD and ISD calls are billed to someone else.'YOU would not dare to speed beyond 55 mph (88 km/h) in Washington and then tell the traffic cop, 'Jaanta hai main kaun hoon (Do you know who I am?). I am so and so's son. Take your two bucks and get lost.' YOU wouldn't chuck an empty coconut shell anywhere other than the garbage pail on the beaches in Australia and New Zealand ..
Why don't YOU spit Paan on the streets of Tokyo ? Why don't YOU use examination jockeys or buy fake certificates in Boston ??? We are still talking of the same YOU. YOU who can respect and conform to a foreign system in other countries but cannot in your own. You who will throw papers and cigarettes on the road the moment you touch Indian ground. If you can be an involved and appreciative citizen in an alien country, why cannot you be the same here in India ?
In America every dog owner has to clean up after his pet has done the job. Same in Japan ..
Will the Indian citizen do that here?' He's right. We go to the polls to choose a government and after that forfeit all responsibility.
We sit back wanting to be pampered and expect the government to do everything for us whilst our contribution is totally negative. We expect the government to clean up but we are not going to stop chucking garbage all over the place nor are we going to stop to pick a up a stray piece of paper and throw it in the bin. We expect the railways to provide clean bathrooms but we are not going to learn the proper use of bathrooms.
We want Indian Airlines and Air India to provide the best of food and toiletries but we are not going to stop pilfering at the least opportunity.
This applies even to the staff who is known not to pass on the service to the public.
When it comes to burning social issues like those related to women, dowry, girl child! and others, we make loud drawing room protestations and continue to do the reverse at home. Our excuse? 'It's the whole system which has to change, how will it matter if I alone forego my sons' rights to a dowry.' So who's going to change the system?
What does a system consist of? Very conveniently for us it consists of our neighbours, other households, other cities, other communities and the government. But definitely not me and YOU. When it comes to us actually making a positive contribution to the system we lock ourselves along with our families into a safe cocoon and look into the distance at countries far away and wait for a Mr.Clean to come along & work miracles for us with a majestic sweep of his hand or we leave the country and run away.
Like lazy cowards hounded by our fears we run to America to bask in their glory and praise their system. When New York becomes insecure we run to England . When England experiences unemployment, we take the next flight out to the Gulf. When the Gulf is war struck, we demand to be rescued and brought home by the Indian government. Everybody is out to abuse and rape the country. Nobody thinks of feeding the system. Our conscience is mortgaged to money.
Dear Indians, The article is highly thought inductive, calls for a great deal of introspection and pricks one's conscience too…. I am echoing J. F. Kennedy's words to his fellow Americans to relate to Indians…..
'ASK WHAT WE CAN DO FOR INDIA AND DO WHAT HAS TO BE DONE TO MAKE INDIA WHAT AMERICA AND OTHER WESTERN COUNTRIES ARE TODAY'
Lets do what India needs from us.
I FEEL THIS IS THE TIME WE SHOULD THINK AND ACT IN A RESPONSIBILE WAY
Why is the media here so negative?
Why are we in India so embarrassed to recognize our own strengths, our achievements? We are such a great nation. We have so many amazing success stories but we refuse to acknowledge them. Why?
We are the first in milk production.
We are number one in Remote sensing satellites.
We are the second largest producer of wheat.
We are the second largest producer of rice.
Look at Dr. Sudarshan , he has transferred the tribal village into a self-sustaining, self-driving unit. There are millions of such achievements but our media is only obsessed in the bad news and failures and disasters.
I was in Tel Aviv once and I was reading the Israeli newspaper. It was the day after a lot of attacks and bombardments and deaths had taken place. The Hamas had struck. But the front page of the newspaper had the picture of a Jewish gentleman who in five years had transformed his desert into an orchid and a granary. It was this inspiring picture that everyone woke up to. The gory details of killings, bombardments, deaths, were inside in the newspaper, buried among other news.
In India we only read about death, sickness, terrorism, crime.. Why are we so NEGATIVE? Another question: Why are we, as a nation so obsessed with foreign things? We want foreign T.Vs, we want foreign shirts. We want foreign technology.
Why this obsession with everything imported. Do we not realize that self-respect comes with self-reliance? I was in Hyderabad giving this lecture, when a 14 year old girl asked me for my autograph. I asked her what her goal in life is. She replied: I want to live in a developed India . For her, you and I will have to build this developed India . You must proclaim. India is not an under-developed nation; it is a highly developed nation.
..
YOU say that our government is inefficient.
YOU say that our laws are too old.
YOU say that the municipality does not pick up the garbage.
YOU say that the phones don't work, the railways are a joke. The airline is the worst in the world, mails never reach their destination.
YOU say that our country has been fed to the dogs and is the absolute pits.
YOU say, say and say. What do YOU do about it?
Take a person on his way to Singapore . Give him a name - 'YOURS'. Give him a face - 'YOURS'. YOU walk out of the airport and you are at your International best. In Singapore you don't throw cigarette butts on the roads or eat in the stores. YOU are as proud of their Underground links as they are.. You pay $5 (approx. Rs. 60) to drive through Orchard Road (equivalent of Mahim Causeway or Pedder Road) between 5 PM and 8 PM. YOU come back to the parking lot to punch your parking ticket if you have over stayed in a restaurant or a shopping mall irrespective of your status identity… In Singapore you don't say anything, DO YOU? YOU wouldn't dare to eat in public during Ramadan, in Dubai .. YOU would not dare to go out without your head covered in Jeddah.
YOU would not dare to buy an employee of the telephone exchange in London at 10 pounds (Rs.650) a month to, 'see to it that my STD and ISD calls are billed to someone else.'YOU would not dare to speed beyond 55 mph (88 km/h) in Washington and then tell the traffic cop, 'Jaanta hai main kaun hoon (Do you know who I am?). I am so and so's son. Take your two bucks and get lost.' YOU wouldn't chuck an empty coconut shell anywhere other than the garbage pail on the beaches in Australia and New Zealand ..
Why don't YOU spit Paan on the streets of Tokyo ? Why don't YOU use examination jockeys or buy fake certificates in Boston ??? We are still talking of the same YOU. YOU who can respect and conform to a foreign system in other countries but cannot in your own. You who will throw papers and cigarettes on the road the moment you touch Indian ground. If you can be an involved and appreciative citizen in an alien country, why cannot you be the same here in India ?
In America every dog owner has to clean up after his pet has done the job. Same in Japan ..
Will the Indian citizen do that here?' He's right. We go to the polls to choose a government and after that forfeit all responsibility.
We sit back wanting to be pampered and expect the government to do everything for us whilst our contribution is totally negative. We expect the government to clean up but we are not going to stop chucking garbage all over the place nor are we going to stop to pick a up a stray piece of paper and throw it in the bin. We expect the railways to provide clean bathrooms but we are not going to learn the proper use of bathrooms.
We want Indian Airlines and Air India to provide the best of food and toiletries but we are not going to stop pilfering at the least opportunity.
This applies even to the staff who is known not to pass on the service to the public.
When it comes to burning social issues like those related to women, dowry, girl child! and others, we make loud drawing room protestations and continue to do the reverse at home. Our excuse? 'It's the whole system which has to change, how will it matter if I alone forego my sons' rights to a dowry.' So who's going to change the system?
What does a system consist of? Very conveniently for us it consists of our neighbours, other households, other cities, other communities and the government. But definitely not me and YOU. When it comes to us actually making a positive contribution to the system we lock ourselves along with our families into a safe cocoon and look into the distance at countries far away and wait for a Mr.Clean to come along & work miracles for us with a majestic sweep of his hand or we leave the country and run away.
Like lazy cowards hounded by our fears we run to America to bask in their glory and praise their system. When New York becomes insecure we run to England . When England experiences unemployment, we take the next flight out to the Gulf. When the Gulf is war struck, we demand to be rescued and brought home by the Indian government. Everybody is out to abuse and rape the country. Nobody thinks of feeding the system. Our conscience is mortgaged to money.
Dear Indians, The article is highly thought inductive, calls for a great deal of introspection and pricks one's conscience too…. I am echoing J. F. Kennedy's words to his fellow Americans to relate to Indians…..
'ASK WHAT WE CAN DO FOR INDIA AND DO WHAT HAS TO BE DONE TO MAKE INDIA WHAT AMERICA AND OTHER WESTERN COUNTRIES ARE TODAY'
Lets do what India needs from us.
I FEEL THIS IS THE TIME WE SHOULD THINK AND ACT IN A RESPONSIBILE WAY
Saturday, January 2, 2010
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Wednesday, October 15, 2008
Our Society and Value system
The way our society is going nobody knows what will happen next, the worst part is no body is ready to take responsibility first we have to understand that our basic concepts are lost in this materialistic world,for any society there are three pillars to support and build the society namely 1) Parents, 2) Media and 3) Teachers, and the problem is all of them are not ready to share their part of responsibilities,
First of all it start with parents, in today's world everyone behind money who cares how it's coming and on what cost, previously we used to have joint families, where most of the times two generations used to stay together, and third generation automatically learn the culture and other things even if both parents are working someone there in the home to take care childrens so there is balance in children growth, where as due to socio-economic problems more and more nuclear families you will find ( now one step further people are going for live -in relations, wait for next blog), all these young couples have high ambitions in their life and their wants are unlimited. When the family start growing both parent not fulfilling their part of responsibility as most of the time both are working, they send the child in day care, or if he is going to school, they feel happy if they spend money on their child demand (no matter right or wrong), they give money for pizza and think they have fulfilled their part, and due to this most of the time children either watching movies, TV, or Internet as media is accessible to them they are exposed to all kind of information,and they are not intelligent enough to decide what is right and what is wrong,
Second part, Media, so many channels are mushroomed and being a commercial enterprise their prime motto is earning money, at any cost, they say, they show what society is demanding, in fact it is reverse, they show what they want to and it is a proven fact when you are exposed to wrong habits and information for a longer period you will also start changing your habits as your thinking is alterned like a slow poisoning, where is the social responsibility of these business, or they have forget.....
and third and the last, Teachers, there were times when teachers were given highest status in the society, our vedas even say Guru is having higher status than God., now in present we don't have good teacher and at the same time the generation also not ready to give proper respect to their teachers, now we should not move to other topic so we stick to teacher only, now most of them are interested in making money by tuition, and previously we used to have teacher by choice, as they love this profession but know they come in this profession when they have found that no other option is left, ( I am not telling that there are not good teachers but we here talking about the majority of them), now as money is the main criteria and the basic values are missing therefore they are also not in a position to pass value system in their student and therefore...when the basics are missing how you can think of making a good society.
Once someone said that if you want to destroy a country no need for any weapon, just destroy their culture and values thru media bombardment and soon they will finish, now here we our self destroying our society, and than we blame on others, crime rate is going high, ......think about it, at least we can start from our house.....and believe me it will make a difference....
First of all it start with parents, in today's world everyone behind money who cares how it's coming and on what cost, previously we used to have joint families, where most of the times two generations used to stay together, and third generation automatically learn the culture and other things even if both parents are working someone there in the home to take care childrens so there is balance in children growth, where as due to socio-economic problems more and more nuclear families you will find ( now one step further people are going for live -in relations, wait for next blog), all these young couples have high ambitions in their life and their wants are unlimited. When the family start growing both parent not fulfilling their part of responsibility as most of the time both are working, they send the child in day care, or if he is going to school, they feel happy if they spend money on their child demand (no matter right or wrong), they give money for pizza and think they have fulfilled their part, and due to this most of the time children either watching movies, TV, or Internet as media is accessible to them they are exposed to all kind of information,and they are not intelligent enough to decide what is right and what is wrong,
Second part, Media, so many channels are mushroomed and being a commercial enterprise their prime motto is earning money, at any cost, they say, they show what society is demanding, in fact it is reverse, they show what they want to and it is a proven fact when you are exposed to wrong habits and information for a longer period you will also start changing your habits as your thinking is alterned like a slow poisoning, where is the social responsibility of these business, or they have forget.....
and third and the last, Teachers, there were times when teachers were given highest status in the society, our vedas even say Guru is having higher status than God., now in present we don't have good teacher and at the same time the generation also not ready to give proper respect to their teachers, now we should not move to other topic so we stick to teacher only, now most of them are interested in making money by tuition, and previously we used to have teacher by choice, as they love this profession but know they come in this profession when they have found that no other option is left, ( I am not telling that there are not good teachers but we here talking about the majority of them), now as money is the main criteria and the basic values are missing therefore they are also not in a position to pass value system in their student and therefore...when the basics are missing how you can think of making a good society.
Once someone said that if you want to destroy a country no need for any weapon, just destroy their culture and values thru media bombardment and soon they will finish, now here we our self destroying our society, and than we blame on others, crime rate is going high, ......think about it, at least we can start from our house.....and believe me it will make a difference....
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